To Whom It May Concern:
I just wanted to comment on the Millie Lewis Letter
#4 written by R.Z. in Sioux Falls S.D.
I don't mean to pick apart your letter, but I feel that
your mother agency is not to blame for your bad experience.
Your daughter talks about wanting to be the next pop
star, as all kids do. But you live in Sioux Falls, S.D.
This is not the best place in the world to start a child's
modeling, acting, or entertainment career.
I believe this is a true statement not meant to offend
anyone from Sioux Falls —if you have been to Sioux
Falls —you would understand why I say this.
So you heard this model search on the radio, your daughter
bugs you to go (as all kids do), so you go; your daughter
gets picked, you were flattered; and you sign her up.
I think it is the lack of your education or ignorance
in this industry that led to the events that made you
have a bad experience and very unhappy.
They supplied the 24 hours of educational training (at
least I counted 24 hours plus a photo shoot). You then
chose to miss educational trainings on March 23 (5 hours)
and June 22 (5 hours). This is 10 hours of training you
chose to miss, almost 1/2.
If you would have made it to all 24 hours, maybe unfortunate
things would not have taken place like missing the call
I don't know how much you spent for all this, but I
gather it was a lot for you to spend. Why did you not
make this a priority for you and your daughter if it
cost so much?
It sounds like this was not the right time for you to
make such a big commitment to your daughter's passion
in life (if it is; this I don't know).
On the subject of hidden cost, when is there not a hidden
cost in everything we do with our children?
They look at you with their big brown eyes, and ask
to be in soccer, so you sign them up, knowing that it
will help they develop skills, such as working as part
of a team, hand-eye-feet coordination, having something
to build their character around, or just something they
Oh yeah, but then there is the cost of new soccer shoes,
or shin guards, and then the soccer uniform. Driving
back and forth from games, and even the doctor's bills
when they sprain their ankle.
Oh, and the personal coaching lessons if it's something
they really enjoy.
Hidden costs: we all know they are there.
This may be a poor example to some people, but I guess
it's one to which I can relate since my son was in soccer.
Every parent goes through it as it is all part of the
learning experience we get to go through. :)
On the subject of photo shoots... you should have said
something. Once again I get the feeling that $400 was
a lot in your eyes, so why not speak up?
Maybe your director could explain to you why the pictures
were the way they were.
There are so many fads these days, and parents don't
always like them, but that is your director's job to
know what is cool and what is hip.
I don't believe AMTC would work with your director if
she did not do a good job. If she felt your pictures
were not suitable for your daughter, then she probably
would have pointed it out.
Your director does not want to look silly, either. No
one wants to look silly when doing their job.
I feel that speaking up may have helped you out, and
get some answers to your frustration.
You many be frustrated and disappointed, but the last
thing you should feel is taken advantage of.
I really feel bad for R.Z. No one likes to travel half
way across the U.S. only to have a bad experience! But
was this for you or your daughter? I believe it was for
You stated that your daughter did have fun and learned
some things. Well, is that not what matters the most?
When she was looking at you with her big eyes, and asking, "Mom,
can we please go to Florida?" you did it so she
could have fun, learn some things, and because you love
I think you didn't educate yourself on your daughter's
hobby enough before getting her into it. As parents do
this we look at others to blame; at the same time, we
hate being wrong! I know: I have done it many times.
You even stated they were nice people. I just think
you may be disappointed that this time around your daughter
was not picked as the next pop star... It happens to
all of us proud parents.